Day 14 of this 2014 adventure and things are going along swimmingly. I have been following the baby steps like a trooper and it is most certainly making a big difference.
I wanted to start this year with the FLY lady because I was feeling overwhelmed by that chaos in our home and I need a good solid foundation for the rest of my year. It’s like breakfast for the soul. I am a person who really needs routines and schedules in order to function at my best, it is just part of my make up, I am no good at loosey goosey, never have been and might as well face the fact that I never will be. I love a list and a schedule and a plan, it makes me very happy when those things all come together. When the schedule goes away I get lost, I get frustrated and seriously overwhelmed. Currently in our home we have two “grown ups”, an 18 year old eating machine who hasn’t exactly mastered the art of cleaning up after himself, 3 cats all of whom have fur (little bastards!) and 2 dogs who have more stuff than I do. When there is no plan this family spins out of control VERY quickly and it is not a pretty picture. Stuff gets piled EVERYWHERE. Dishes, socks, fur baby toys, paper just spread from one room to another. It is like the worst swarm a a D&D DM could throw at you! I get so overwhelmed that I freeze up, I don’t know where to start so… I don’t start. Hello snowball effect!
When I originally found the FLY Lady is was hopeless lost and it was really having a deep impact on my mental health. What I desperately wanted (other then the mess to magically go away) was for someone to take me by the hand and say “Do THIS! Then do this….” I am good at following orders but all I could find was giant master lists of things in a house that should be cleaned. Then I stumbled on FLY Lady and started reading. She said “Do THIS one thing. Then the next day do it again and add THIS!” It was sincerely an answer to my prayers. I have never been able to stick with it long term but I have come back to it many times and I am always really pleasantly surprised with the results. Within a few days there is a noticeable difference in our home, especially the kitchen. Part of this is because tidiness sort of breeds tidiness. When it is clean I feel inspired to keep going, I am not paralyzed by the task ahead.
Last night I was so happy with the state of the kitchen that I snapped this candid photo. I didn’t stop to make any changes or clean up first (Which you can tell because the floor is un-swept) This was how it looked after dinner because I had space to cook and clean as I went. It’s not perfect but a quest for perfection is what paralyzes me being with, I have to let go of perfection. I am not Martha Stewart and even she has a full team of people helping her up. My asshole cats NEVER pick up a broom.