Category Archives: 2015

Good Bye 2015 & Hello 2016!

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The last few years I have done a post summing up the highlights of the year and another with a list of my hopes and goals for the coming year. Yesterday I sat down and started to make my list and 2015 was such an exceptional year that I actually developed a hand cramp, no lie… a hand cramp. That is truly a sign of greatness. That is not to say my year was not without challenges because certainly there were. Challenges are not always a bad things, sometimes they are there to help us grow. Sometimes they push us to be our better selves. I am glad that in 2015 gave me opportunities to make my marriage stronger, to make my friendships more solid, to be a better employee.  I am starting 2016 as an imperfect woman, married to an imperfect man, madly in love in an imperfect marriage and I honestly just can’t wait to see where 2016 takes us.

I am not making and grand goals or manifestos for 2016. I want to live more in the present whatever the hell that means. I want to love my husband and my friends and I want to end 2016 as happy as I was at the end of 2015.

 

 

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Year End Wrap…. The Good!

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I felt okay about my list of failures because I am a secure human but I am REALLY excited to bring you my list of successes!

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2. I am going to drink less pop but MORE good coffee and good booze. Again, life is short and awesome.

I still drink pop. but the goal was LESS.  I stopped buying it to have in the house (except I did buy some for Christmas), now I buy 500 ml bottles as a treat or have pop when I am out.

4. I am going to get a massage every month. They aren’t that expensive and my medical covers most of it. Why the hell not?

Oh man, this was definitely one of my favorite accomplishments this year. I can’t tell you how much I look forward to this one hour a month. 

6. I am going to read LOADS.  Mark D suggested a book a week. I am not sure I can keep that pace but it won’t hurt to try

I didn’t read as much as I planned, and I didn’t blog everything because I got a little lazy but I did squeeze in 16 books this year. 

10. I am going do things that make me feel pretty. Wear nice clothes, put on some lipstick, paint my nails.  Not because I have to meet some societal norm but because when I feel pretty my confidence soars and I can do anything.

This year I bought make up and pretty clothes and I wore both of them and you know what? I felt great!

12.I want to eat breakfast every day.  We have been hearing it for years, it is the most important meal of the day. I am home now, I have time to eat before work so I should be fueling up on good stuff.

Toast and oatmeal might not be that creative but damn if it doesn’t get the job done!

13. I am going to be more creative. Paint, scrap, glue, write, whatever it is I just need to get my creative juices flowing.

14. I am going to continue to discard the crap. There is so much unnecessary stuff in our home. You can’t organize clutter and stuff is just stuff, not a memory

The great September purge was a total success! 

15. I am going, with the help of my awesome husband and our friends and family, finish the damn basement.  This is a project that has been in the making for too long.  There is great space down there and we are not using it to it’s fullest potential and that is just dumb.

Okay so it’s only 90% done but dammit I am putting this one in the win column. 

16. I am going to patch and paint (the same colour, ’cause I love it) the dining room wall. It is an awful mess so instead of looking at is and feeling bad I am going to do something about it.

It looks great. I can’t wait to get the art up! 

19. I am going to use my juicer.  I have this big beautiful contraption I never use. That needs to change.  I am not going to do a juice diet or anything, but I am going to make us juice because there is no sense in owning something like that and not using it.

The juicer now lives with someone else. LOL

20. I am going to dance. In the kitchen, in the living room, in the aisles of the store, where ever the mood takes me. I am going to dance because I love to.

21. I am going to get new ink.  I have been talking about several pieces I have wanted for a long time now and it is time to get off the pot.

I love my new tattoo, it is so beautiful. 

22. I am going to take LOTS of pictures. I love my camera, being out with it makes me happy so I am going to try another 365 project or something of the like.

Oh yeah, nailed it!

23. I am going to watch less TV. I have fallen into a bad habit and sitting in front of the laptop with netflix has taken up way too much of my life. I am aiming to watch no more than 10 hours a week.

Okay so I watched a lot of TV but I did take a 3 month break with no TV at all.  It was really good. 

24. I am going to stop being disappointed that I am not Martha Stewart.  My house is never going to look like Better Homes and Gardens. That is not who I am, that is not who Gil and I are as a family. Our house gets messy but in the end it away gets cleaned up, stressing over it is foolish.

25. I need need to practice compassion in my day to day life, with my friends and family, with my co-workers and customers, with strangers in the street and also with myself.

27. I want to have girls nights.  I have amazing girl friends. We should spend more time together.

Girl nights, girl lunches, girl limo trips even girls weekends away!

31. I want to nap more. I have to stop seeing it as a waste of time. Maybe it is a luxury but it is one I deserve to indulge in.

Oh I have fully embraced the nap! I have one about once a week!

34. Don’t buy things for the sake of buying them, I want purchases to be something I really love, really want and well thought out.

With a few odd exceptions I did really we at this. 

43. I want to take a class, or two, or ten.  Cooking, self defense. Something, anything that gets me learning.

I really enjoyed the classes I took. I hope to take more next year.

45. I want to make preserves. Every year I see recipes for pickles and jams and I think “I could do that!” and this year it the year I see it through

I made jam! 

46. I want to burn my candles. I have so many candles and wax warmers and they sit getting dusty. I love candle light, it is so romantic and it always sparks my creativity (pun intended).

48. I want to re-watch all 10 seasons of Friends. There are 236  30 minute episodes so I can watch one a day and still keep in my reduced TV time.

Done son!

50. I want to give both my money and my time to charity this year.  It is easy to sit and make a donation but is not as gratifying as getting out there and getting involved.

51. I want to be a great wife.  Gil spent a large part of 2014 taking care of me and keeping things on an even keel and I want to invest my time and energy on showing him how much I value what he has done for me and our family.

Well we aren’t divorced. HA!

53. I want to spend time with children. Just because I don’t have kids doesn’t mean I don’t like them. I want to spend fun time with Chloe, Logan, Dylan, Lennox, Oliver, Seumas, Kilei, Brooklyn, Vienna and all the other adorable small humans we know.

54. I want to have EVENTS. They don’t have to be big and grand but some times it is nice to put the effort in for stuff with your pals. Valentines day, Pancake day, Cinco De Mayo, S’mores,  whatever, let’s just party!

We had SO much fun with BBQ’s and fires and cookie baking and big parties. It was FUNtastic! 

58. I want to FINALLY make all the knobs and pulls in the kitchen match.  We have three different styles, two of which I got halfway through installing and quit.

So glad to have this done!

61. I want to write more. I have tried and failed at NANOWRIMO a few times now, so I want to try instead to spend months working a a story rather than weeks.  I love writing and I think one day I could actually write something good if I keep at it

62. I want to learn to make Corey’s chicken dip. I drooled on the keyboard at just the mention of it.

I had a great date with Corey and now I make great dip!

66. I want to do something special for my husband for our anniversary but I want to plan ahead. I don’t want to throwing the something together at the 11th hour like I usually do.

We had an amazing time and he was super surprised! 

68. I want to do some real star gazing. Go out on dark clear nights, maybe borrow a telescope and look at the amazing masterpiece that is the night sky.

70. I want to make something out of wood. With my hands and tools.

I made Christmas ornaments and they were beautiful! 

78. I want to go swimming LOTS. I only got to go once in 2014 and I left totally robbed. Nothing says summer like me and Aimee swimming at the river.

80. I want to decorate for Halloween, I have all the stuff I just need to put the effort in.  If I don’t use it we don’t need to keep it.

Our house looked great!

81. I want to decorate for Christmas.  The last two years I have been totally half assed about it. Same as above. If I am not going to use it then it has to go.

Our house looks SUPER great!

82. I need to start using my calendar and getting Gil to try and do the same. I can’t count how many times things got missed or double booked because they didn’t make it to the calendar. It’s not a hard task and it saves time, energy and hurt feelings.

There was MUCH less double booking this year. Not perfect but much better!

83. I want to Blog more.  I don’t know if anyone even reads what I write but I feel like it really helps me to process what is going on in my life, drives to me keep goals and gives me a creative outlet.

What am I doing RIGHT now??! YEAH!

85 I want to do something fun and funky with my hair.  I have had a safe brown pony tail for way too long. It is time to try and shake things up. Worst case scenario I hate it, so what? Hair grows.

86. I want to buy myself a pair of cool boots.  I love boots.

I friggin’ love my boots!

95. I want to get to know my neighbours. We have been here 6.5 years and I couldn’t tell you the name of the people who live on either side of me. That is just wrong and this year I am going to fix it.

I am so glad I got to know my neighbours better. They are great! 

96. I am going to help my husband grow us business ambitions.  It is going to be a busy year but I want him to keep up with his skulduggery and I will do whatever needs doing to help with that.

I would like to say I helped by being so cool and laid back. If you believe that I have some a bridge in London to sell you…

98. I want to continue to purge toxic people from my life so I can surrounded my with good, kind, loving people.

I actually am very proud of some choices I made in this area of my life.

99. I want to keep dreaming big because when you stop then you get old and boring.

100. I want to keep being awesome because even though I can always be and do better, I like who I am. I like my life and I am happy to be where I am!

Damn yo! I  AM super cool!!

Year End Wrap! The Bad….

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I have had a fantastic year! My manifesto has given me so much motivation this year. But before I take the time to look at my successes I want to look at the areas where I failed, sometimes spectacularly.

Whenever you leave behind failure you’re doing good. If you think everything you’ve done is great, you’re probably dumb. ~Louis C.K.

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1. I am going to eat less take out and fast food but MORE butter and good cheese. I think life is too short to live without these things.

HAHAHA! NO, so much no. If anything Gil and I ate out MORE. We were SO busy we were eating on the fly all the time, plus we ate and some fantastic places. And we loved every moment.  As my dear friend Theresa told me “You have to spend your money on something!”

3. I am going become a flosser, one who flosses. I am going to brush AND floss every day.

5. I am going to try a new recipe once a week.  I am tired of eating the same things over and over. It is time to be more adventurous in the kitchen especially since I have the time at home now.

It’s hard to try new stuff when you never cook. LOL 

17. I am going to get a new kitchen counter.  When we got the dishwasher Gil cut the counter in half with a skillsaw to get it in. It was supposed to be temporary, that was 5 years ago.

UGGG stupid money. 

28. I want to have game nights. We own SO many board games and we play so seldom. Game nights are such a good way to spend time with out our friends

I don’t think one time counts.

29. I want to be more green. We need to start using the travel mugs and the reusable grocery bags but I don’t use them all the time. We could use less cling wrap, tin foil, paper towel, Kleenex.  There are ways to be green in my everyday life that just take a little effort and I want to stop being lazy and be more contentious of the impact I am having on the world around me.

This one makes me sad. I really wanted to do this. It is absolutely going on to my 2016 list. 

30. Whenever possible I want to buy local and fresh.  It sometimes make more effort but as above, it is time to start being more aware of my community and my place in it.

32. I want to get our art work framed and hang it on the wall. Gil and I have several beautiful painting we have picked up over the years and they are just sitting in the computer room, not being looked at. That is a disservice to the artist.

35. I want to play more chess. I am never going to be good if I only play every few years.

Again I don’t think once counts. 

36. I want to go to the campground with Tanya & Trena.  They are some of my favorite family members and we hardly ever see each other. I need to take time for the important people in my life and T&T are high on that list.

37. I want to make loads more things from scratch like bread and cakes and waffles. There are so many good things that I could make if I just put the time in.

38. I want to finally learn to make good tea biscuits. I have tried several times and always end up with hockey pucks. This year, the tea biscuit is going to be my bitch.

39. I want to learn to sew.  Gil and I are talking about buying a sewing machine but if we do it HAS to be something we use. I often see projects that I would love to try but sewing has been to daunting. Imagine all the cool shit I could do if I sewed?

Well we DID get a sewing machine… it’s still in the box.

40. I want to paint Gil’s computer room. It is another project that we have been talking about since we bought the house 6 years ago but have just never gotten around to. No more laurel resting!

41. I am GOING to paint the master bedroom. See above but with more emphasis because the walls are so much uglier.

*SIGH*

42. I am going to try hard to multitask LESS. I feel like my attention is always split in 10 different directions. It is

Guess what I am doing RIGHT now?!

47. Two words… CHEESE FONDUE!

49. I want to send more snail mail. Yeah, stamps are getting expensive but I love the craft of writing a letter. There is something so personal about it.

Do Christmas cards count??

57. I want to send birthday cards to my friends and family. Maybe I could make them, that is creative. But I love getting cards, especially in the mail. I want to pass that feeling along because I bet I am not the only one.

I don’t think I sent even one. Sorry guys!

63. I want to learn to make samosa’s from Gee’s mom. If you are going to learn something it might as well be with the tutelage of a master.

There is still a plan in the works!

64. I want to Skype with my brother Deedee WAY more often.  We have this gift of technology and we use it so seldom. Time to fix that.

It takes two to Tango!

65. I want to have Sunday dinners, at the table, with Michael and Gil.  Not every Sunday or anything but regularly, once a month even to sit down together as a family and relax over a nice meal.

Not even once. LOL We suck

67. I want to have some nice pictures taken of Gil and I.  All the pictures we have we are pulling faces or they are selfies taken at odd angles. It would be nice to have something to show what an awesome, good looking couple we really are.

There was a plan, I swear, then I got my hair cut…

69. I want to learn to play crib. It is one of those things that people do. I have never learned because I thought you had to know math.

72. I want to lower my blood pressure.

73. I want to lower my bad cholesterol.

74. One word…. BRAN!

76. I want to finally learn to make pie crust.

77. I want to go on hikes. Hikes encompass so many of my other goals, walking, being outside, taking pictures.  It is the perfect combo pack

I did walk a lot playing Ingress but I don’t think there were any hikes

84. I want to run a D&D game.  I have been playing for 13 years now and I have loads of fun ideas. The only thing keeping me from running is fear of failure and the is just dumb

87. I want to scrape the pink paint of the front and side doors. Damn it is ugly. I have hated it since the day we moved in. I just need to get off my bum and do it.

88. I want to finish painting the closet and bathroom doors on the main floor. They have been primer for about 5 years.  There is just no need of that.

89. I want to finish my linen closet project. I already invested the money, now I just need to put in the time and the manual labour.

90. I want to build pillow forts.  I haven’t built a fort in longer than I can remember. It was so much fun when I was a kid. I bet it is still fun now.

91. I want to attack my debt like the foe it is.  Sure a lot of the things I have listed here will take some money but not that much. If I spend wisely maybe I can be out of the whole by the end of the year.

93. I want to put a serious effort into our back yard and garden this summer. We have spent a lot of energy on the front but the back has a lot of great space we could use if we just put the time into it.

94. I want to make homemade cleaning products, more natural, more green, more economical. Win, win, win.

I bought the STUFF to make them…. good intentions 

97. I want to put my smart phone away at meals and in social settings. Nothing so important is going to happen on Facebook while I am having dinner with my husband that it can’t wait until later.

Oh Ingress! 

So I know it looks like a LOT of things I didn’t get done but I am genuinely undaunted. I don’t look at this list and feel like a failure, I look at this list and am proud at how optimistic I was at the start of this year. I know I can just let some of these things go altogether but I can’t wait to see how much I can get done in 2016!!

I Am Spoiled

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MOST of the time I work from an office in my home but for the last seven days I have been going into THE office, our head office when the majority of my co-worker work. It was lovely to spend time with my work friends, to get out and socialize, to just plain get out, but being there for the week gave me a lot of perspective on just how lucky I am.

  • My idea of business casual generally consists of flannel pj’s and no bra!
  • It is SO quiet in my office.
  • No public washroom!!
  • I spend one break a day having a cuddle with my boy Angus.
  • My other breaks are spent cooking, cleaning, having kitchen dance parties, watching TV or napping.
  • My commute is AWESOME! No bridge traffic or toll, no paying for parking, no parking tickets.
  • There’s no need to be up at the ass crack of dawn.
  • If I over sleep I can shower on my break.
  • No spending money on coffee or lunches.

Yup, it is pretty amazing and I know I am a lucky girl.

 

Day 304 – Happy Halloween Peeps and Creeps!

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List item #80. “I want to decorate for Halloween, I have all the stuff I just need to put the effort in.  If I don’t use it we don’t need to keep it.”

Another item successfully crossed off my list! I am sure the 7 kids who showed up at my door appreciated my efforts!  Actually I had a lot of fun getting the house ready and it looked great. I had a few friends over, we had some nibbles and some booze, Not to mention the lack of children means that Gil and I have a heap of left over candy to fuel us through the end of day light savings and the beginning of NANOWRIMO, which I am insanely jumping into tomorrow.

15 years ago a Saturday Halloween would have meant a slutty costume and a party all night but now I am old and super excited to crawl into bed and have all day Sunday to tidy and write. God I love being Old Lady R.

I hope you all had a fun and spooky night!